Breakup & Reconciliation
The Breakup & Reconciliation spread is nine cards in three rows. The first row looks at what happened and the part each of you played, the second at your feelings now and the hidden truth, the third at what to heal, which step to take and how things may end.
When to use this spread
- After a breakup, when your thoughts keep returning to your ex.
- When you are both thinking about getting back together but are unsure.
- To let a relationship go by understanding it.
Spread positions
- 1What Broke Us
The real reason for the breakup — not always the one spoken out loud.
- 2Your Part
What you brought to the conflict — without blaming yourself.
- 3Their Part
The other person’s part in what happened.
- 4Your Feelings Now
How you feel about this relationship today.
- 5Their Feelings Now
The other person’s emotional state now.
- 6Hidden Truth
What is still unsaid or unrecognised.
- 7What to Heal
The wound worth healing whether or not you get back together.
- 8Next Step
The most helpful action right now: reach out, wait or let go.
- 9Outcome
Where this path is likely to lead.
How to read the spread
Read the spread row by row. The first row is an honest look at the past, the second at the present, the third at moving forward. If the rows contradict each other, the third matters most.
The “What to Heal” card (7) is about you even if there is no reconciliation. It is often the main advice of the whole spread.